Cheng Xin Rui’s Experience (Facilitator) [he/him]

Honestly, the hardest thing about facilitating is resisting the urge to facilitate.

Having only hopped into this run halfway through its 10-week run, I found myself once again thrown in for a loop. As with every cohort, the participants form their ideas of what the work is on their own time, often solidifying their ideas as time goes along. It is at times like this when I am forced to reckon with my own ideas on the work, amorphous as it already is. Where are the limits? Where are the lines? Can I say anyone is definitively wrong, and can I consider anyone truly correct?

Of course, that is a trap. The search for definitives, and the accompanying desire to pass on these definitives, stifles the creative process. We search and we search and we search, and there is no one who can search for us. At best, others are beside us, searching as we ourselves are.

And when we finally arrive at an answer, we must be prepared to discard it, to once more throw ourselves into the breach.

Cat fact: Cat tongues are rough because the are covered in tiny, conical bristles, which they use both for eating, and for grooming.